Sunday, March 2, 2008

Happy Birthday Porter

Today was Porter's bithday. All he wanted for his birthday was to go to a suns game. So Ryan took him to the game last night they had so much fun.

Porter is such a great kid. He already has such great integraty. Porter knows he is not to watch PG-13 movies. A few years ago he watched part of one at a friends house and I found out about it. We had a talk and he has never watch one since. He will go to a friends house and they will want to watch a movie and his first question is "is it PG-13?" I even had a babysitter one time put one on and he stayed inthe other room and told her he couldn't watch it because it was PG-13. I have had friend call me and tell me that he refused to watch a movie because it was PG-13. I am so greatful for him and his desire to make good choices. Thanks for being a GREAT son and a wonderful example to your yonger brother and sisters. I love you Porter!

P.S. for some reason it is not letting me put pics in righ now so pics to come soon!

Fix me

The other day at arobics Brodee had a little melt down. I have found recently that the best way to get through to him is to sit down and reason with him. I sat down with him and dtarted to talk to him. I then said "what am I going to do with you" (which I should have never said) and he said to me "just throw me in the trash can" I felt horrible. I told him I didn't want to throw him in the trash can I just didn't like his actions sometimes. I talked to him a little longer when he took my hand and put it on his back and said to me "fix me" As I tried to hold back the tears I realized he didn't like to get into trouble just as much as I liked him to make bad choices. How do you help your kids have self control and with stand the temptations to make bad choices at this age? When I tell him not to get in the mud to be able to control himself no matter how fun it would be to squish his finger through that mud. Right now it is mud but in a few years it will be much scarier things I am trying to keep him away from. As I have thought about this the last few days and as I have listened to parenting talks and talked to friends I came to the realization that I need to build him up more. I need to focus on the posative instead of the negative all the time. All he hears from me is don't do that don't get into that, why did you do that. I need to praise him and tell him all the good things that he does and help him have the confidence to know that he can make better choices. Not only with him but all my kids. I focus way too much on the negative instead of the posative. So my new goal is to uplift my kids, praise them for all the good things that they do instead of nit picking all the bad or not so good things they do. I just pray that it will help me be a better parent. It is so scary to be a mom. Maybe this will help "FIX ME".