Fix me

The other day at arobics Brodee had a little melt down. I have found recently that the best way to get through to him is to sit down and reason with him. I sat down with him and dtarted to talk to him. I then said "what am I going to do with you" (which I should have never said) and he said to me "just throw me in the trash can" I felt horrible. I told him I didn't want to throw him in the trash can I just didn't like his actions sometimes. I talked to him a little longer when he took my hand and put it on his back and said to me "fix me" As I tried to hold back the tears I realized he didn't like to get into trouble just as much as I liked him to make bad choices. How do you help your kids have self control and with stand the temptations to make bad choices at this age? When I tell him not to get in the mud to be able to control himself no matter how fun it would be to squish his finger through that mud. Right now it is mud but in a few years it will be much scarier things I am trying to keep him away from. As I have thought about this the last few days and as I have listened to parenting talks and talked to friends I came to the realization that I need to build him up more. I need to focus on the posative instead of the negative all the time. All he hears from me is don't do that don't get into that, why did you do that. I need to praise him and tell him all the good things that he does and help him have the confidence to know that he can make better choices. Not only with him but all my kids. I focus way too much on the negative instead of the posative. So my new goal is to uplift my kids, praise them for all the good things that they do instead of nit picking all the bad or not so good things they do. I just pray that it will help me be a better parent. It is so scary to be a mom. Maybe this will help "FIX ME".

Darth Vader

Brodee found this old picture of our family and colored it. When I asked why he did it He said to me I just wanted to be Darth Vader. He comes up with the best excuses so he doesn't get in trouble.

Happy Birthday Hallie

Today is Hallie's 7th Birthday. This in this morning her Birthday breakfast request was waffles with strawberries and whipped cream. She is such a great daughter she is always willing to help out with whatever I need. She loves her friends and has so many because she is so nice to everyone. Last year her teacher told me that she was one of the popular girls at school, because she is so nice to everyone so everyone wants to be her friend. She is a great big and little sister. Her teacher last year wrote in one of her report cards Hallie is like Mary Poppins Practically Perfect in every way. We love our Hallie Girl. Hope you have a great Birthday.

Family Pics

The day before Family Pics the nurse at Hallie's school called me and told me Hallie had fallen of the slide and got a little scrap in her face. She didn't want to come home she just wanted to go back to class. So when she got home and I saw her "little scratch" I was so sad because we had family pics the next day with my whole family before my parents leave on the mission. Hallie was so sad too. She cried and said I don't want to take pictures tomorrow. She is still so cute with the scratch though.


This is Porter and his two cousins Trey and Kyle. I love this pic of Porter you can see what a cute little personality he has.

I loved this pic but Ryan didn't like the cracker in Ashlyn's mouth.

And this is the one we sent out on our Christmas Card. I will put up some more of my whole family when I get them.

Thanksgiving

Grandma Tucker and Ashlyn.

All of Ryan's family came out for Thanksgiving except Nat and Dave who were back east with Dave's Family.

Lana brought out these fun Thanksgiving treats for the kids to make. Thanks Lana the kids had so much fun with them.

Happy Birthday Shell

It is late but I wanted to make a quick post for my sister Shelley. Happy Birthday Shelley. She was the best little sister. I was always a procrastinator and I would always take forever doing my Saturday chores. I would know that I couldn't go out until they were done, but I never seemed to get them done soon enough so I would beg her to vacuum for me because I didn't have time and my date would be there. She always would do it for me so I could go out. I think this happened at least once or twice a month. She was the best. Then we moved done the street from her right after she had Emma. It was so fun to live so close to her. Brodee would ride his little scooter down to her house sometimes without letting me know he was going. We got to spend alot of time with Emma. Brodee just loved her. It was so much fun having you so close we miss having you right down the street. Thanks for being such a great sister. We hope you had a great Birthday.

Sorry for the delay

The Tucker blog will be updated shortly. We have fallen behind due to the "busy life" syndrome. I have been busy looking for a new job and Jen has been busy working on a Christmas present for a family member. We apologize for the last update being on November 19th. I know my sisters (Rachel and Holly) are not to happy. They do a great job of updating thier blogs.

You may not have heard but my department at Chase is closing so I am in the process of finding a new job. This came as a suprise but we are sure that it will turn out to be a good thing when all is said and done. Blessings come in all different ways when you least expect them. Thanks for your patience.